The Pursuit Of Happiness Is In Your Control

We are all capable of controlling our happiness. As we age, that ability to be happy becomes ever more immportant. Whether you are retired or still working, your quality of life is affected by the basic emotion of happiness.

Where does true happiness come from? Recent studies suggest that happiness is -- to a great extent -- a matter of attitude, and therefore within our control as human beings. In fact, psychologists have been able to identify a number of steps we can take to make our "pursuit of happiness" more productive:

1. Be an optimist - Researchers have come to see optimism as a skill, rather than an inborn trait. While some people are naturally more adept than others, it can be learned.
By practicing positive thinking, you can develop better coping mechanisms and learn how to manage negative feelings.

2. Be social - Human beings are social animals, and studies have shown that people with five or more close friends are 50% happier than those with a smaller social circle.

3. Challenge yourself - While challenges are often viewed in a negative fashion, they are essential to the human condition. Find something that tests your limits, such as learning a new language or sport, and you will generally be happier for it.

4. Focus on doing, rather than having - If you have a choice between buying a big-screen television or going on a cruise, opt for the latter. The satisfaction you get from ownership fades rapidly, while the memory of an event often grows more profound over time.

5. Take good care of yourself - Your physical appearance directly affects your self-esteem. Do something each day to make yourself feel good, such as exercising, getting your hair done, or simply dressing nicely for dinner.

6. Look after another - The act of caring for another living being fills an important psychological need in all of us. It takes you out of your own world and can give you a sense of purpose. That's why so many empty-nesters and retirees find it rewarding to adopt a pet, become a mentor, or volunteer at a local school.

While these are just a few ways to find happiness in today's world, they are a good place to start. You may even find that the pursuit itself is what really counts in the end.


Source: CNNMoney.com "Can Money Buy Happiness" by David Futrelle, July 18, 2006


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